‘Why Are You Friends With Her?’

My therapist listened carefully to my description of an evening at the theatre with my friend. This friend often tells me she loves me, and I think she means it. Sort of. Continue reading ‘Why Are You Friends With Her?’


Not Getting What You Want

So, the worst has happened. I did what I always feared: I asked for what I wanted.  The thing that always stopped me doing it, the fear I would be told ‘I hear you and I don’t care’ has been realised. But nobody died. And maybe I got what I needed. Hmm. Continue reading Not Getting What You Want

Always Friendship (or Any Relationship?) On Someone Else’s Terms

Had lunch with two women I barely know but met through my old college. It was lovely.  A little Spanish restaurant where we each chose tapas to share while we chatted about all manner of things.  Nice place.  I used to go there with BH years ago.  But (though we talked about relationships with partners and exes) it wasn’t him I thought of afterwards. Continue reading Always Friendship (or Any Relationship?) On Someone Else’s Terms

Mentoring and a Fairy Light

I noticed that one of my colleagues on the course had signed up to be a mentor with a company called Everwise. (Nice name. Bit cocky.) Continue reading Mentoring and a Fairy Light