Not Getting What You Want

So, the worst has happened. I did what I always feared: I asked for what I wanted.  The thing that always stopped me doing it, the fear I would be told ‘I hear you and I don’t care’ has been realised. But nobody died. And maybe I got what I needed. Hmm. Continue reading Not Getting What You Want


Asking For What You Want

Back to work yesterday and it didn’t seem as bad as before, something had shifted. A few months of therapy, a few years of thinking and talking, and a week’s retreat. Finally starting to unravel the habits of a lifetime. Continue reading Asking For What You Want

Always Friendship (or Any Relationship?) On Someone Else’s Terms

Had lunch with two women I barely know but met through my old college. It was lovely.  A little Spanish restaurant where we each chose tapas to share while we chatted about all manner of things.  Nice place.  I used to go there with BH years ago.  But (though we talked about relationships with partners and exes) it wasn’t him I thought of afterwards. Continue reading Always Friendship (or Any Relationship?) On Someone Else’s Terms

Mentoring and a Fairy Light

I noticed that one of my colleagues on the course had signed up to be a mentor with a company called Everwise. (Nice name. Bit cocky.) Continue reading Mentoring and a Fairy Light